Forgive and Forget

Everyone knows that it is easy to forgive but it is difficult to forget. I mean how are you suppose to delete an incident from you memory bank, I mean it has to be there for some reason, perhaps it has affected you in some way, or it has been with you for a very very long period of time. Today, we were talking, and I had reflected upon myself...

When something has happened in the past, to you, or to someone else you love and care for so dearly, it is more often than not beyond your locus of control. That means that you should have to shoulder the mental burden of it. Why should you suffer for something which is you can't do anything to stop or prevent. Do not fall into the trap of voluntary victimizing yourself because of the plight that you are in. I realized that because I have always been in that position of doing so. Not only that I have been around people who is engaging in that vicious cycle. By placing yourself in the position , you would only inflict more pain upon yourself or worst still on others, the ones that you love ( I have been in that position too) . I guess if you can't do anything about it, then don't try to! You would only make yourself more miserable isn't it?

Trust me, I have learnt that the hard way..

Traveling with your other half is really a test of you relationship. First of all, you are being thrown into a land outside your comfort zone, which makes you really feisty. Second of all, you guys see each other everyday, it is almost like a pressure cooker. You can either have wonderful dish or be completely burnt. Being in the US with August has further affirmed my doubts that there is nobody else better for me. How can I complain ? He cooks, cleans and washes. We are also being thrown into this simplified version of what marriage life would look like, we have to cook, clean and pay the bills all by ourselves. And I think I might have just hit the jackpot. Lucky me.